Dear Ms. Galang,
Medicine that cure were always the bitter ones. That is why exposing the truth sometimes become hurtful to some, because it violates one’s vanity. We must not do what the indolent and ignorant people do: ad hominems. We must focus on countering the arguments alone, if you were engaged in some kind of debate, or if you were asserting yourself in a situation. We must not play their game. Every argument that they presented were also valid arguments at first glance, no matter how outrageous or scrutinizing. It is through proper debate that we have the chance to disprove those arguments, which comes in guises like stereotypes or speculations. We should do it in an academic or noble way, just like the great people did in the past. It is the painful truth that some of us, UP Students relied to this underhanded method. Even I once became a subject to these ad hominems when I demanded justice regarding the issue on ask.fm. What I am saying to you may not be the whole manifestation of the truth, but it may be fruitful for your synthesis and interpretation of the situation, if you consider it. Things like “who are you to judge?” or “what gives you the right to criticize me?” are manifestations of one’s selfishness regarding the interpreation of the Bible’s teaching of not judging people. Criticisms are much different from giving judgments, that has long been the forgotten theme of the teaching. Criticisms are subjects to debate and the judgment is the final conclusion of that debate. If you want to engage in a debate, I won’t mind. I’ll accept defeat if you produced the better argument as I hope you will do so if in case the opposite happens. If you are offended somewhat on that comment, then you should consider that you presented your argument to the public and are subject to criticisms on which in the spirit of democracy much take into consideration and should be tolerated up to acceptable levels. We may have different personalities or outlooks but that doesn’t mean that if you can’t tolerate that personality, you should give the final judgment of one having a bad personality, or even worse, telling others of your despise to that person. That is why, there are friends that come and go.